It’s come a full sunday from my ‘burnt out’ post and guess what I burnt out again. For very good reason BECAUSE I DIDN’T PUT MYSELF FIRST. As usual I put my little princely bambinos first. Why – because I felt sorry for the dear darlings. Not that I had neglected them at home for the whole lovely sunday morning. Oh no. I was up at the crack of dawn (640 am – it is the crack of dawn when you go to bed at 1230am) baking scones (a wonderful recipe which I’m including below) took the first prince to cricket. Came back and took all of them to a birthday party and when it was all over at 1230 I had errands to run at Rosebank and rather than following my initial ‘Selfish’ plan, which was to go do errands, take time out, have a coffee and write. But no I felt sorry for the poor darlings even though they had a fabulous party morning, and I took them.


Lesson Number One – Do not take children shopping. Especially all three together, especially when one is a 2-year-old who runs everywhere helter skelter and disappears like a magic rabbit.

Lesson Number Two – If you do take children shopping KISS – Keep It Simple Stupid and only go to one destination.

Lesson Number Three – Your sanity comes first – so rather leave them with your domestic or family member. Or if you live overseas, go do late night shopping when your angels are snuggled up safe and tight in bed. (I miss late night shopping in Sydney there are stores open 24 hours a day. You can so time your shops when it’s so peaceful and quiet, probably because no kids are around.)

So the moral of the story is that I should have put my interests before theirs and we all would have won. It’s selfish in a good way. I and I suspect many, many of you need good selfishness. Where we put our pedicured toes down (if we are so selfish to take the time to do or go for one) and say I’m going to take my time now, reenergise so I can come back whole.

I today was not whole. I was a martyr, pulling my hair out when I didn’t have my nappy bag on me for my two-year olds doo doo (I know I’m disorganised although I prefer to think of myself as stupidly optimistic). I was ready to throw the towel in when my 5-year-old announced for the whole Woolworth’s queue to hear, ‘I need to make a wee.’ He held it in and I survived long enough to come home, lick my wounds and ignore them as much as possible for the rest of the afternoon. (How was this accomplished – by going out!) And they’re good kids, hell they’re great kids. I was at fault. Utterly at fault. I preach about being burnt out and I’m always burning out. One more example and one more lesson to be learnt.

Lesson Number Four – For Everyone’s sake BE SELFISH

NB: Selfishness taken to an extreme is obviously not recommended. There are many selfish mothers who are so self absorbed that they become absent. This is also not good. I would argue that if you’re a mommy martyr you also are absent because ‘you’ as in who you truly are as a whole person is also not there. The answer is my friends – the happy medium – BALANCE.

And on a happy note – a sit in the garden under a purple Jacaranda (or at least imagine that you could) with a cup of tea note.


This is an utterly delicious recipe of scones bestowed to me by my dear friend Tanya from her granny. It has no milk and is very easy (as if you’ve noticed most of my recipes are).

Makes 6-9 Scones (If you require more it’s very easy to double or even quadruple)


1 Egg

1 Cup Flour

2 tsp Baking Powder (or just use self-raising flour as I do so much easier)

2 Tablespoon Sugar (I put 3 big ones)

1/3 Cup Oil

Salt (like a pinch)

Water (as needed)


1. Preheat oven 200 C

2. Mix all ingredients in mix master. Add Water until right consistency – which is – not too doughy and not too watery. BALANCED like selfishness.

3. Spoon into greased muffin tray. I like to use the silicon ones so I don’t have to worry about the greasing.

4. Baste with beaten egg.

5. Bake in oven at 200 C  for 10 minutes until golden.

Serve with freshly whipped cream (if you’re time challenged as I often am use the double thick cream from Woolies) and Jam (Woolies Jams are yum and come in yummy flavours such as fig and granadilla and pineapple. I know they should pay me for all the advertising I do for them.)

 And Bon Appetite 🙂


I thought to add a tip that has occured to me whilst doing the blog and I think I will include a tips box underneath when I do have such tips. For all mom’s out there preparing for school especially grade one moms – GET READY FOR 2011 early. I didn’t get ready early enough. I will have to do a whole going to school blog but for now you can order stationary and stickers and all sorts of things.

One source is Ronit 0825966088 ‘Order stationary stickers now for next year. Save time and money. R45 a sheet’

Make your life a little easier + the kids love their name stickers. One thing I did get right the beginning of this year (okay I admit I was even late with the stickers – but only by a few days.) I’m ordering mine right now.